Is Your Love Unreasonable?

Throughout time, humans have elevated reason – our ability to rationalize and make judgement calls regarding good and bad decisions. In Aristotle’s Ethics he describes human beings as rational animals and identifies reason as a uniquely human characteristic. Our ability to justify and rationalize our decision-making is God-given. But dependence upon reason can also get in the way of God’s call for us to love unconditionally. Human reason is great, but God’s wisdom shames the wise (I Corinthians 1:27). Where we see only failure, He sees a future. Where we see destruction, He sees destiny. In the middle of our mess, He […]

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One Thing Your Marriage Needs

Do you ever watch those southwest commercials that ends with the saying “wanna get away”? They are probably some of my favorite commercials. One reason being, they are hilarious. Second reason, aside from their brilliant marketing and trying to sell you that they’re the best, Southwest is right: sometimes we just gotta get away. It’s healthy to get away from; work, the kids, the dirty dishes, the laundry list, and LIFE. When was the last time that you took a vacation? I don’t mean Hawaii or Europe, because if we are thinking in that aspect, you may not always be […]

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So This Is What My Wife Feels When I Do This To Her.

Some would say that Unveiled Wife and I are crazy for leaving our town for 28 days during the nicest month of the year with our 20 month old. We spent those days flying around the country landing in 6 different cities to visit her publisher as well as 3 conferences that she had been craving to go to for a couple years now. My wife and I are no strangers to traveling and actually really enjoy it; Africa, South America, Canada, 2 cross country road trips, up and down both coasts and handful of other little adventures. All this to say, […]

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Hang Up The Boxing Gloves in Your Marriage

For whosoever will save his life shall lose it; but whosoever shall lose his life for my sake and the gospel’s, the same shall save it.” (Mark 8:35 KJV) Let’s Get Ready To Rumble!” Round One: Finances You and your wife enter the boxing ring regarding your monthly budget. You grab your gloves and she grabs hers. First punch comes from you, the husband. You say to your wife, “You are spending to much money! The things you buy are unnecessary. You’re always shopping! YOU need to scale back. That’s why we are short this month!” Pow! Every word spoken […]

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I Stopped Saying “I’m Sorry” To My Wife, And You Should Too

Communication is an essential part of any successful relationship and marriage is no exception. Normally, I tend to recognize communication elements that I need to add to how I communicate with my wife. But sometimes, it’s just as important to recognize a bad habit and stop doing it. In this case, I have made a conscious decision to stop saying two words to my wife – I’m sorry. Words matter It’s easy to get lazy with your word choice. There’s a tendency to flippantly use words without consideration for what they really mean. In the 1987 romantic comedy, The Princess Bride, […]

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What I Learned From A Pre-Approved Credit Card

When I got my first piece of mail as a married man, I was excited that it read “Mr. and Mrs. Michael Rochin”. I thought it was the coolest thing ever (even though it was just a “pre-approved” credit card) … but then fear struck me when I saw both of our names together because I realized something: I represent not only myself, but now my wife; every single action I do from now on will be a reflection of her. If I treat someone harshly, they can fairly assume that my wife is rude as well. If I gossip […]

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Are You Afraid Of Continuing This Cycle In Your Marriage?

Almost 5 years ago, I moved out of my house; not because I was an 18 year old kid that wanted to be on his own, and not because I was getting kicked out, but because my parents were getting a divorce and my Dad was moving to a different state. Statistics say that you may understand my situation first hand. Almost a year ago, I said “I do” to my wife; A vow that sometimes goes forgotten by some and a promise that people don’t pay attention to when they should the most. When I said, “I do”, and […]

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Dear Pornography: An Open Letter To My Old Friend

Dear Pornography, We have known each other since I was a child and I feel as though I can tell you things that I could never tell anyone else. You know all my secrets and all my fantasies and you have been by my side in the good times and the bad. You spent time with me when I was lonely or bored and you comforted me when I was angry and hurt. It feels like you have always been there for me. But I need to get a few things off my chest. You promised me that after I got married I wouldn’t […]

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3 Life Lessons I Learned From My Dad

I can’t remember much of my childhood. I always tell people this is because I’m always looking toward the future, but I doubt that’s why. I’m pretty sure I just have a terrible memory. But as I look at the kind of person I have grown up to be, I begin to see things in myself that remind me of the things my dad taught me as I was growing up. I see character traits in me that are just like him; I think like him, I love like, I joke like him and I definitely got my love of computers and tech […]

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Pornography’s Effect on Marriage

Guest Post by: Mike Taylor It is a frequently accepted fallacy that pornography use while in a marriage or a committed relationship can help “spice things up”. In reality, pornography and the effects of an addiction can do more to harm the relationship than almost anything else. In 2002, the annual meeting of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers reported that “an obsessive interest in Internet pornography” played a significant role in 56 percent of their divorce cases during the previous year. Worldwide, the pornography industry brings in over $97 billion each year. However, the cost to the institution of […]

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